You’ve decided to widen your options to include those who are currently incarcerated. Do you want a situation that more easily justifies your desire to go slowly?
This is one of the safest and earliest ways to test compatibility while still locked up. All prisoners have access to their list, so ask for a copy. If unable to mend family ties, if they lack the desire to do so, those could be indicators.
You’ll need these truths as an extra foundation to buffer the challenge that initially awaits a prison relationship.
2) Do You Understand All That Goes Into A Prison Relationship? Get to know people in a like situation for support.
They can empathize with difficulties as they arise and can be leaned on for advice, especially regarding the lopsided, seemingly one-way aspects that come up. and their first day out they want to go drinking, maybe that’s a head’s up. Perhaps some aren’t allowed to work elsewhere, but here all are.
Though you may receive a surprise bouquet of flowers (more likely a card from canteen), can you accept you’ll definitely not be getting breakfast in bed on your birthday? Can you cope with limited contact and other difficulties? If they’ve remained unchanged, they may still carry traits you don’t want in a partner. If they’re reckless in here, without a concern for their losses (meager as they may be) what might they sacrifice out there? If the person you meet doesn’t work or go to school while they are in prison, what do you think they’ll do when free? In here, there is time, more time and then extra time to do most of what you want to do.